Monday, July 4, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 32 - Fault and Change

Fault and Change by Carlos Miceli


I must be myself. I cannot break myself any longer for you, or you. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Think of all the things that are not working in your life. That job you don’t like, that relationship that’s not working, those friends that annoy you. Now turn them all on you. Imagine that everything that’s not working in your life, is your fault. How would you approach it? What would you work on to change your life to the state that you want it to be?
(Author: Carlos Miceli)

Fault and Change by Andrew Cairns

Buddhists might say you need to detach yourself from desires - material, physical, emotional; Christians might say, you should think more of your neighbour, turn the other cheek; Jews might say do good deeds. As a Muslim, while I would agree with all of these approaches, I think that any change in your life should be guided by reflection on the passages of the Qur'an, the Hadiths, prayer for guidance, consulting your religious community / family, and doing what feels right in your heart.
I notice a lot of the prompts in this series run along a similar vein of what you want to be, what goals you have in life, how you want your life to be; and then proposing some kind of rather simple / naive self-help method of achieving what you want. While that can be interesting or useful; sometimes you just have to accept in life that despite all your best efforts and striving, you do not actually have control over everything or everyone and you have to humbly submit to reality, to destiny, to events outside of your control. 

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 31 - Image

Image by Matthew Stillman


Is it so bad, then, to be misunderstood? Pythagoras was misunderstood, and Socrates, and Jesus, and Luther, and Copernicus, and Galileo, and Newton, and every pure and wise spirit that ever took flesh. To be great is to be misunderstood. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Mess up your hair. If you are wearing makeup – smudge it. If you have a pair of pants that dont really fit you – put them on. Put on a top that doesn’t go with those pants. Go to your sock drawer. Pull out two socks that don’t match. Different lengths, materials, colors, elasticity.
Now two shoes. You know the drill.
Need to add more? Ties? Hair clips? Stick your gut out? I trust you to go further.
Take a picture.
Get ready to post it online.
Are you feeling dread? Excitement? Is this not the image you have of yourself? Write about the fear or the thrill that this raises in you? Who do you need to look good for and what story does it tell about you? Or why don’t you care?
(Author: Matthew Stillman)


Image by Andrew Cairns


Part 31 of the 30-part writing series - only in America!
I wouldn't feel dread about dressing up in this way, since I quite often do wear colours that don't go together that well in a conventional way. Also a picture on this site is likely to be seen by very few people (undoubtedly less than the number of people who would see me if I just took a walk down the street). I do have some phobias and conventions about how I dress (and opinions about how other people should dress). I need to look 'good' (usually) to meet the work / casual dress-code, to be attractive to others and I suppose to blend in. I don't really care in the sense that what I'm wearing (as long as it's decent) doesn't make much of a difference to who I am / what I can do, but sometimes I have to care since certain people judge you by your image : you turn up for a job-interview scruffily dressed and you'll have less chance of getting the job than if you're dressed smartly. 
In short I don't really like or agree with all the dress-code, conventions and judgemental attitudes; but it's there and sometimes you need to comply or compromise to please others / fit in / get on in life.
PS Photo to follow...
                                                                 Be afraid, be very afraid... ;)


Thursday, June 30, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 30 - 10 Year Text

10 Year Text by Tia Singh


Speak what you think now in hard words, and tomorrow speak what tomorrow thinks in hard words again, though it contradict every thing you said today. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Imagine your future self, ie, you 10 years from now. If he/she were to send you a tweet or text message, 1) what would it say and 2) how would that transform your life or change something you’re doing, thinking, believing or saying today?
(Author: Tia Singh)

10 Year Text by Andrew Cairns

By my calculation this is the final prompt in the series, and unfortunately like many of the prompts it is totally lacking in inspiration or originality (very similar to part 8 for example : http://my-self-reliance.blogspot.com/2011/06/trust30-online-initiative-30-day_07.html).
My future self could send me a tweet listing a few bets to place or investments to make, allowing me to rake in amazing riches. He could also say what the future trends are going to be, allowing me to create startups in all the future  winning ideas or sectors and reap the benefits.
Perhaps my future self, though would not wish me to make material gains from any precise knowledge of the future, but benefit more mentally, spiritually and emotionally from his hopefully increased wisdom and understanding of the universe, of the soul. He would more likely send me a list of books to read, of people to contact, of places to go, deeds / exercises / meditations / prayers to perform and also what to let go of or avoid.

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 29 - Overcoming Uncertainty

Overcoming Uncertainty by Sean Ogle


Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. Nothing can bring you peace but the triumph of principles. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Write down a major life goal you have yet to achieve or even begin to take action on. For each goal, write down three uncertainties (read: fears) you have relating to each goal. Break it down further, and write down three reasons for each uncertainty. When you have three reasons for your fear, you’ll be able to start processing the change because you know where the fear stems from. Now you’ll be able to make a smaller changes that push you towards your larger goal. So begins the process of “trusting yourself.”
(Author: Sean Ogle)

Overcoming Uncertainty by Andrew Cairns


Another day, another 'what is your lifetime goal' prompt...
Major life goal : world domination.
Uncertainties :
1. Lack of originality - it's been done before, to various degrees of success e.g. Geographical domination - Caesar, Hannibal, Hitler, British Empire, USA today...; Information Technology domination - Microsoft, Google, Facebook...; Cultural domination - McDonalds, Starbucks, Hollywood... How to find a new twist on the well-worn theme?
2. Making enemies - "You don't get to 500 million friends without making a few enemies." (Social Network - film).
3. Going down in history as an evil dictature / evil multinational director / evil destroyer of indiginous cultures... (what would I do without the '...' ?)
Three reasons for each uncertainty:
1.1 "There is nothing new under the sun" (Ecclesiastes 1:9). No matter what you do, there will always be someone to compare it to something that has already been done and accuse you of being un-original (thus diminishing your efforts).
1.2 Our ego pushes us into wanting to be the best at something, finding the best most original idea, being unique and wonderful, uncomparable to anyone else... If what you do is perceived as a second rate copy of someone else then it's a big ego deflator.
1.3 Being unoriginal is like stealing; in the short to medium term you might be able to fool most people including yourself as to the brilliance and newness of your approach, but in the long term someone (or your own conscience) will expose you and demand you to face up to your theft.
2.1 Enemies are bad, they may try to kill you (and possible succeed).
2.2 If you've made enemies, then you've done bad stuff; a lot of enemies a lot of bad stuff (or bad stuff on a big scale); if you have a conscience you'll feel guilty and ashamed. Conscience or not your bad actions will undoubtfully have bad consequences which in the long-run (poetic justice) will effect you or people / things you care about.
2.3 If you've broken the rules, payback is coming in this world or the next. 
3.1 Again our ego pushes us to want to be remembered for something (perhaps one of the reasons for having such lofty 'goals'); being remembered for being evil (with few or no redeeming features) is worse than being forgotten.
3.2 Underlying suspicion is that it is nigh impossible to dominate globally in any given area without being labelled evil; you become the world's biggest charity, raising the most funds for the poor, you'll still be accused of ulterior motives, of squashing the small grass-roots charities, of accepting money from un-ethical unsavoury people or organisations, of creating and maintaining dependant unskilled handout receivers...
3.3 History is written by the victors; if you win, you can write what you like about yourself (and hush up the conspiracy theorists); nevertheless the truth will out in the long run and your name may well end up as mud (or as hero for some; devil for others - proportions depending on what you've done, how you've done it, who you've done it to and how all that is written up, investigated, perceived... a real minefield). 

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 28 - Alive-est

Alive-est by Sam Davidson


Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind. If we follow the truth, it will bring us out safe at last. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
When did you feel most alive recently? Where were you? What did you smell? What sights and sounds did you experience? Capture that moment on paper and recall that feeling. Then, when it’s time to create something, read your own words to reclaim a sense of being to motivate you to complete a task at hand.
(Author: Sam Davidson)

Alive-est by Andrew Cairns

I felt most alive while out for a run a week or so ago; discovering my new neighbourhood. Smelt some circus animals which were grazing in the park - camels, lamas, goats, ponies (luckily the lions and tigers were locked up); the smelll of summer - grass and flowers; the smell of freedom. The sounds of people playing football; of planes, trains and automobiles; of the wind blowing in grass, bushes and trees; of my own breathing and beating heart. I found my way to the big park (a 10 minute run from my new house) and on the other-side another park which has a slight incline which you can go up to get a view of the surrounding area. Tried to find a cirular route back home (found it the following weekend on my bike), but this time got wedged between 2 train lines (sounds painful :)) and didn't fancy dashing across a train-line (with TGVs that can arrive incredibly fast), so more or less went back the way I came. I suppose discovering new surroundings, new sights, sounds and smells makes me feel alive.

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 27 - Personal Recipe

Personal Recipe by Harley Schreiber


I do not wish to expiate, but to live. My life is for itself and not for a spectacle. I much prefer that it should be of a lower strain, so it be genuine and equal, than that it should be glittering and unsteady. I wish it to be sound and sweet, and not to need diet and bleeding. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Think about the type of person you’d NEVER want to be 5 years from now. Write out your own personal recipe to prevent this from happening and commit to following it. “Thought is the seed of action.”
(Author: Harley Schreiber)

Personal Recipe by Andrew Cairns

There are a lot of 'types of person' I'd never want to be 5 years from now. This question is really just a twist on the 'how do you see yourself 5 years from now'. What I don't want to be 5 years from now is still overly subject to the demands of work, i.e. just running along in the rat race, doing something just vaguely interesting and motivational which is what I've been positioned to do due to my qualifications and experience; too much travel-time, minimal free-time, not a good life-work balance...
Personal recipe is basically to not be afraid to do some drastic changes : location, occupation, work-schedule / organisation, salary... all a bit vague, but then as John Lennon said "Life is what happens to you, when you're busy making other plans".

Monday, June 27, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 26 - Call to Arms

Call to Arms by Sasha Dichter


The secret of fortune is joy in our hands. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
What if today, right now, no jokes at all, you were actually in charge, the boss, the Head Honcho. Write the “call to arms” note you’re sending to everyone (staff, customers, suppliers, Board) charting the path ahead for the next 12 months and the next 5 years. Now take this manifesto, print it out somewhere you can see, preferably in big letters you can read from your chair.
You’re just written your own job description. You know what you have to do. Go!
(bonus: send it to the CEO with the title “The things we absolutely have to get right – nothing else matters.”)
(Author: Sasha Dichter)

Call to Arms by Andrew Cairns

If the bottom line is just more money, more profit, more revenue, more clients... employees and clients relationships and motivations are largely going to be based on the same. A more healthy and sustainable way of doing business is - yes to aim to do well economically (earn revenue) - but also to balance that against social and environmental impact. Your employees (and hopefully clients) will only be happy and loyal in the long-term if you take into account their overall well-being (economic, social and environmental) and that of future generations (the concept of sustainable development).
Rather than offering your employees monetary bonuses and 'team-building' go-kart event, offer them for example : a bike (on condition they cycle to work), flexible work-hours (and possibility to work at home sometimes), deals on energy-saving devices / energy-autonomous housing and the opportunity to do volunteer work.

Friday, June 24, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 25 - Most Ordinary

Most Ordinary by Patti Digh

Good and bad are but names very readily transferable to that or this; the only right is what is after my constitution, the only wrong what is against it. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
We are our most potent at our most ordinary. And yet most of us discount our “ordinary” because it is, well, ordinary. Or so we believe. But my ordinary is not yours. Three things block us from putting down our clever and picking up our ordinary: false comparisons with others (I’m not as good a writer as _____), false expectations of ourselves (I should be on the NYTimes best seller list or not write at all), and false investments in a story (it’s all been written before, I shouldn’t bother). What are your false comparisons? What are your false expectations? What are your false investments in a story? List them. Each keep you from that internal knowing about which Emerson writes. Each keeps you from making your strong offer to the world. Put down your clever, and pick up your ordinary.
(Author: Patti Digh)

Most Ordinary by Andrew Cairns


False comparisons: not doing as much a rebel as xxx, not as good at smooth-talking as yyy, don't have the energy / drive of zzz.... zzzzzzzzz.
False expectations: to be able to retire and go and live in a big house in the country, to be some big hotshot high-flier career-driven maniac, to make it BIG (or else just continue the daily grind).
False investments: nothing I can do will make much of a difference, if I was going to make it as writer/... (other alternative career) I would have done so by now, we're all just bricks in the wall or cogs in the machine except a few bright sparks / history-changers (and in the long term even they will be forgotten)


You have to live at your own rythmn, make your own choices, take your own risks. 

Thursday, June 23, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 24 - Intuition

Intuition by Susan Piver


The secret of fortune is joy in our hands. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
If you could picture your intuition as a person, what would he or she look like? If you sat down together for dinner, what is the first thing he or she would tell you?
(Author: Susan Piver)


Intuition by Andrew Cairns


My intuition would be a hairy, stocky, cave-man-like person; very close to nature with highly developped senses (sight, smell, touch, taste, hearing and extra-senses like empathy). I would sit down, he would be restlessly pacing and hopping around. He would refuse to eat anything that hadn't been freshly picked or hunted / slaughtered. He would tell me to get back in touch with nature, with brotherhood / sisterhood, to remove all masks and pretenses and be your authentic self; expect others to do the same (force them if possible - prod them with forks ;)).

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 23 - Courage to Connect

Courage to Connect by David Spinks


Men imagine that they communicate their virtue or vice only by overt actions, and do not see that virtue or vice emit a breath every moment. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Who is one person that you’ve been dying to connect with, but just haven’t had the courage to reach out to? First, reflect on why you want to get in touch with them. Then, reach out and set up a meeting.
(Author: David Spinks)


Courage to Connect by Andrew Cairns

Don't really see what the question / challenge has to do with the quotation.
Need to set up an evaluation meeting with my manager (to hopefully get a pay rise :S). Outside of work, Mike Reynolds maybe (from http://earthship.org/) or someone more local who does the same thing (building energy-autonomous building mostly out of recycled materials). The idea would be to build one of my own (for me + family) to settle down somewhere. Trying to find the balance of interesting job or activity / ability to earn a living / good place to live and bring up family...
 

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 22 - Enthusiasm

Enthusiasm by Mars Dorian


Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.” is a great line from Emerson. If there’s no enthusiasm in what you do, it won’t be remarkable and certainly won’t connect with people on an emotional basis. But, if you put that magic energy into all of your work, you can create something that touches people on a deeper level. How can you bring MORE enthusiasm into your work? What do you have to think or believe about your work to be totally excited about it? Answer it now.
(Author: Mars Dorian)


Enthusiasm by Andrew Cairns

The following aspects would enable me to bring more enthusiasm to my work:
- better working relationships: working with like-minded, enthusiastic, motivated people (not just motivated by money)
- subject area which I am really interested in (preferably in sustainable development)
- objectives which I believe in
- better working environment (e.g. no long distance commute)

Monday, June 20, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 21 - You Know

You Know by Jen Louden


Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind. Absolve you to yourself, and you shall have the suffrage of the world. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
We live in a society of advice columns, experts and make-over shows. Without even knowing it, you can begin to believe someone knows better than you how to live your life. Someone might know a particular something better – like how to bake a three-layer molten coconut chocolate cake or how to build a website – but nobody else on the planet knows how to live your life better than you. (Although one or two people may think they do.) For today, trying asking yourself often, especially before you make a choice, “What do I know about this?”
(Author: Jen Louden)


You Know by Andrew Cairns


What you 'know' and use to make a choice at a given time, may later be revealed to incorrect or incomplete. With hindsight you may wish you'd chosen differently.
You can only base any choices on you current knowledge and feelings. As for today, not sure I made any important choices; perhaps choosing to communicate more and by different means (face-to-face, phone, email).

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 20 - Speak Less

Speak Less by Laura Kimball


What I must do is all that concerns me, not what the people think. This rule, equally arduous in actual and in intellectual life, may serve for the whole distinction between greatness and meanness. It is the harder, because you will always find those who think they know what is your duty better than you know I. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
I once received a fortune cookie that read: “Speak less of your plans, you’ll get more done.” What’s one project that you’ve been sitting on and thinking about but haven’t made progress on? What’s stopping you? What would happen if you actually went for it and did it?
(Author: Laura Kimball)


Speak Less by Andrew Cairns

I prefer "You don't ask, you tell" - (Elaine to George) from the series Seinfield.
No real project (other than metioned in previous posts) comes to mind. Maybe writing a book, or trying to get some of my previous efforts published. What's stopping me, is like a lot of things, finding the time. With blogs, ebooks, self-publishing you can always go down the alternative publishing route. The trick in either case is to find an audience. What would happen ? Best case - become an overnight writing sensation; worst case - book bombs and dies.

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 19 - Facing (and Fearing)

Facing (and Fearing) by Dan Andrews


Greatness appeals to the future. If I can be firm enough to-day to do right, and scorn eyes, I must have done so much right before as to defend me now. Be it how it will, do right now. Always scorn appearances, and you always may. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Trusting intuition and making decisions based on it is the most important activity of the creative artist and entrepreneur. If you are facing (and fearing) a difficult life decision, ask yourself these three questions:
1) “What are the costs of inaction?” I find it can be helpful to fight fear with fear. Fears of acting are easily and immediately articulated by our “lizard brains” (thanks Seth) e.g. what if I fail? what if I look stupid? If you systematically and clearly list the main costs of inaction, they will generally overshadow your immediate fears.
2) “What kind of person do I want to be?” I’ve found this question to be extremely useful. I admire people who act bravely and decisively. I know the only way to join their ranks is to face decisions that scare me. By seeing my actions as a path to becoming something I admire, I am more likely to act and make the tough calls.
3) “In the event of failure, could I generate an alterative positive outcome?” Imagine yourself failing to an extreme. What could you learn or do in that situation to make it a positive experience? We are generally so committed to the results we seek at the outset of a task or project that we forget about all the incredible value and experience that comes from engaging the world proactively, learning, and improving our circumstances as we go along.
(Author: Dan Andrews)


Facing (and Fearing) by Andrew Cairns

Without referring to any particular personal example, here are my thoughts on this...
1. Unless you live some kind of nomadic / marginal existence, then you will at some point in your life find yourself in some sedentary situation where you will fear or be adverse to change. That is perfectly normal - "lizard brain", "defense mechanism"... call it whatever you like; change means the unknown which may be better or worse than the status quo. Change also means some effort on your part, in return for some hoped for result; unless the result is 100% guaranteed, you are risking doing something for no reward. As to weighing the costs of inaction versus the fears of action, that can often be subjective (pros and cons are all very well, but again are subject to what weight or importance you put onto each pro / con). Nevertheless in some situations change is not only a good idea, but a necessity (to avoid catastrophe - the status quo is obviously untenable).
2. If you "scorn eyes / appearances", take away any narcissism and believe in God, then the only answer to that question can be a person who submits to the will of God, who does his best to do good in all circumstances. Actions should be more a path which will lead you to what is good for you (your well-being, religion and spirituality) and for others; and less a path leading to some objective of becoming an ideal person or someone to be admired.
3. In the event of failure / worst case scenario, there are usually positive aspects to be taken away; if not a positive alternative outcome, then at least experience gained by your efforts, the increased strength developped (in the face of adversity) and the humility to admit that you cannot control everything and that God has guided you to another outcome / path (than that which you planned, for a reason). The Arabic term "Insha'Allah" (God willing) is used by Muslims to qualify any future plans or when talking about future events to ask God's blessing on the task and to acknowledge submission to God (that the task will only succeed by the will of God). See Sura Al-Kahf (18):23-24 (The Cave) - English translation :
   23 Nor say of anything, "I shall be sure to do so and so tomorrow"
   24 Without adding, "So please Allah." and call thy Lord to mind when thou forgettest, and say, "I hope that my Lord will guide me ever closer (even) than this to the right road."
Interestingly this can be compared to a passage in the Bible, James 4:13-15 (English Standard Version) :
   13Come now, you who say, "Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit"—

  14yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes. 15Instead you ought to say, "If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that."

Sunday, June 19, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 18 - Dreams

Dreams by Michael Rad


Abide in the simple and noble regions of thy life, obey thy heart. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Write down your top three dreams. Now write down what’s holding you back from them.
(Author: Michael Rad)


Invent the Future by Andrew Cairns


I dream of having time, space and the freedom to explore and develop. Mental, physical and metaphysical barriers are holding me back.

Friday, June 17, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 17 - Invent the Future

Invent the Future by Cindy Gallop


A man should learn to detect and watch that gleam of light which flashes across his mind from within, more than the lustre of the firmament of bards and sages. Yet he dismisses without notice his thought, because it is his. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
My favorite quote of all time is Alan Kay: ‘In order to predict the future, you have to invent it.’ I am all about inventing the future. Decide what you want the future to be and make it happen. Because you can. Write about your future now.
(Author: Cindy Gallop)


Invent the Future by Andrew Cairns


I live with my family in a spacious energy-efficient (autonomous) house with large luscious gardens where fruit, vegetables, trees and flowering plants grow in abundance. Nearby are forests, lakes, rivers and the sea with beautiful unspoilt beaches.
I have a great balance of work and personal life (with time to spend with the family / friends, read, play music and do sports). I have time to travel locally (and occasionally to more distant places for longer trips).
 

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 16 - Wholey Strange

Wholly Strange and New by Bridget Pilloud


When good is near you, when you have life in yourself, it is not by any known or accustomed way; you shall not discern the foot-prints of any other; you shall not see the face of man; you shall not hear any name;—— the way, the thought, the good, shall be wholly strange and new. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Can you remember a moment in your life when you had life in yourself and it was wholly strange and new? Can you remember the moment when you stopped walking a path of someone else, and started cutting your own?
Write about that moment. And if you haven’t experienced it yet, let the miracle play out in your mind’s eye and write about that moment in your future.
(Author: Bridget Pilloud)


Wholey Strange and New by Andrew Cairns


Going to Australia for 5 and a half weeks (in 2004) was a great experience where I discovered a strange new continent with different sounds and smells and sights. I ventured out into the bush (backpacking / minibusing with small groups of other independent travellers) and along the Great Ocean Road and down the Gold Coast. I felt a great sense of freedom and opportunity, of the wildness and immensity of nature. So many amazing places where you can see beautiful unspoilt scenery stretched out before you, hear only the rushing of waves, the call of exotic birds and the song of cicadas. Climbed in the Flinders ranges and Kings Canyon, hiked around Uluru and the Kata Tjutas, biked to canyons and water-holes near Alice Springs, scuba-dived near Green Island (Great Barrier Reef - off the coast of Cairns), snorkelled in various places on Gold Coast, 4x4'd round Fraser Island (with 9 other people), explored huge dunes on the Great Ocean Road, met my crazy Australian cousins, ... a great adventure which made me feel alive. 

Thursday, June 16, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 15 - One Thing

One Thing by Colin Wright


Do your work, and I shall know you. Do your work, and you shall reinforce yourself. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Take a moment, step back from your concerns, and focus on one thing: You have one life to achieve everything you’ve ever wanted. Sounds simple, but when you really focus on it, let it seep into your consciousness, you realize you only have about 100 years to get every single thing you’ve ever wanted to do. No second chances. This is your only shot. Suddenly, this means you should have started yesterday. No more waiting for permission or resources to start. Today is the day you make the rest of your life happen. Write down one thing you’ve always wanted to do and how you will achieve that goal. Don’t be afraid to be very specific in how you’ll achieve it: once you start achieving, your goals will get bigger and your capability to meet them will grow.
(Author: Colin Wright)

One Thing by Andrew Cairns

Kind of similar to some of the previous prompts. The quote from Emerson, to me, is less to do with setting goals, and more to do with being consciencious in your work (seeing the value in your work and the increased value in yourself if you do a good job, learn or perfect a skill and contribute to society).
To get back to goals, small (easy) goals don't require much effort or work e.g. to run a 10 km race, to learn the lyrics of your favourite song (and sing them to someone); bigger (more difficult) goals take more effort, work and above all motivation e.g. to run a marathon or compete in a triathlon, to learn how to play an instrument (well). I don't agree that achieving small goals, will necessarily allow you to define and achieve bigger ones. Although that is one way to progress in a given area (like playing an instrument) to learn easy pieces / techniques first and move on to more and more difficult pieces.

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 14 - Alternative Paths

Alternative Paths by Jonathan Fields


When good is near you, when you have life in yourself, it is not by any known or accustomed way; you shall not discern the foot-prints of any other; you shall not see the face of man; you shall not hear any name; the way, the thought, the good, shall be wholly strange and new. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
The world buzzes about goals and visions. Focus. Create a vivid picture of exactly where you want to go. Dream big, then don’t let anything or anyone stop you. The problem, as Daniel Gilbert wrote in Stumbling Upon Happiness, is that we’re horrible at forecasting how we’ll really feel 10 or 20 years from now – once we’ve gotten what we dreamed of. Often, we get there only to say, “That’s not what I thought it would be,” and ask, “What now?” Ambition is good. Blind ambition is not. It blocks out not only distraction, but the many opportunities that might take you off course but that may also lead you in a new direction. Consistent daily action is only a virtue when bundled with a willingness to remain open to the unknown. In this exercise, look at your current quest and ask, “What alternative opportunities, interpretations and paths am I not seeing?” They’re always there, but you’ve got to choose to see them.
(Author: Jonathan Fields)

Alternative Paths by Andrew Cairns

Alternative paths include career change (and / or possible professional status change e.g. freelance), change of location, change of life-style. I'm quite interested in sustainable / autonomous buildings : http://earthship.com/. Who knows, maybe try and build one somewhere ?
 

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 13 - Surprise

Surprise by Ashley Ambirge


I will not hide my tastes or aversions. I will so trust that what is deep is holy, if we follow the truth, it will bring us out safe at last. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Think of a time when you didn’t think you were capable of doing something, but then surprised yourself.  How will you surprise yourself this week?
(Author: Ashley Ambirge)

Surprise by Andrew Cairns

Mostly to do with work-load / not achieving things on time... this week's challenges will be starting a new project. I will surprise myself by getting organised quickly and working on the relational side of the project (very important in this case).

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 12 - Fear

Fear by Lachlan Cotter


These are the voices which we hear in solitude, but they grow faint and inaudible as we enter into the world. Society everywhere is in conspiracy against the manhood of every one of its members. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Is fear holding you back from living your fullest life and being truly self expressed? Put yourself in the shoes of the you who’s already lived your dream and write out the answers to the following:
Is the insecurity you’re defending worth the dream you’ll never realize? or the love you’ll never venture? or the joy you’ll never feel?
Will the blunder matter in 10 years? Or 10 weeks? Or 10 days? Or 10 minutes?
Can you be happy being anything less than who you really are?
Now Do. The Thing. You Fear.
(Author: Lachlan Cotter)

Fear by Andrew Cairns

The daily grind, the pressure to follow the accepted route of society, to do the acceptable job, live in the reasonable safe place; is the fear of lack of job / home / environment security holding me back from some unfulfilled dream? Perhaps the dream of travelling and living in some different places appeals to me - the call of the wild!! Finding a place (or places) to live and some useful occupation (with the possibility to earn a living :)) where I can feel more free / less constrained / more in touch with nature... Now do...

Friday, June 10, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 11 - Divine Idea

Divine Idea by Fabian Kruse

Imitation is Suicide. Insist on yourself; never imitate. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Write down in which areas of your life you have to overcome these suicidal tendencies of imitation, and how you can transform them into a newborn you – one that doesn’t hide its uniqueness, but thrives on it. There is a “divine idea which each of us represents” – which is yours?
(Author: Fabian Kruse)

Divine Idea by Andrew Cairns

The 'stability' of job, house, material possessions... or to quote from Trainspotting :
"choose life.choose a job. choose a career. choose a family. choose a fucking big television, choose washing machines, cars, compact disk players and electrical tin openers........ Choose good health, low cholesterol and dental insurance. choose fixed-interest mortgage repayments. choose a starter home. choose your friends. choose DIY and wondering who the fuck u are on sunday morning. choose sitting on the coach watching mind numbing , spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing junk food into your mouth. choose rotting away at the end of it all, pishing your last in amiserable home nothing more than an embarassement to the selfish,fucked-up brats you spawned to replace yourself. choose your futur. choose life."

How to overcome following the path expected of you by the norms of society?
Tough, but basically question all endeavours, purchases, associations... Try to avoid doing things just because 'everyone else' is doing it. Look at the benefits or consequences for yourself, family, environment (short-term, medium-term and long-term - including future generations - the concept of sustainable development).

Thursday, June 9, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 10 - Your Personal Message


Your Personal Message by Eric Handler

To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all men, that is genius. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
What is burning deep inside of you? If you could spread your personal message RIGHT NOW to 1 million people, what would you say?
(Author: Eric Handler)

My Personal Message by Andrew Cairns
"Get up, get out, and do somethin'; How will you make it if you never even try?" (Macy Gray) or "Born to get busy baby, born to get busy" (Cypress Hill) or "Chill out and drink some herbal tea" (Andrew Cairns ;)).

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 9 - Afraid to Do

The other terror that scares us from self-trust is our consistency; a reverence for our past act or word, because the eyes of others have no other data for computing our orbit than our past acts, and we are loath to disappoint them. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Emerson says: “Always do what you are afraid to do.” What is ‘too scary’ to write about? Try doing it now.
(Author: Mary Jaksch)
Afraid to Do by Andrew Cairns
Moving house and getting rid of some of my junk; doing it now. A small step, may be a good preparation for a more radical move (where would have to get rid of not just some but most of junk). Keeping stuff you no longer need or seldom / never use definitely has aspects of reverence of the past or attachment / nostalgia for the past and as the quote says it's deepened by pressure from 'the eyes of others'. There is also a certain materialist mentality, where everything has a value, although this can also be positive if you attempt to re-use / re-cycle things rather than just stash them away in a cupboard / cellar. Sometimes I wish I'd been born a desert nomad or plains indian, always on the move and therefore forced to limit possessions to the strict minimum. In western / capitalist society the emphasis is on the accumulation of material wealth;  the idea being the wealthier you become, the more successful / happier you should be. There is however a line of thought (which is growing in support and credibility - see my other blog http://my-sustainable-development.blogspot.com/2011/06/is-global-economy-ponzi-pyramid-scheme.html), which rejects the current global economic model (due to it's unsustainable nature) and proposes new models based on sustainable practises and new ways of measuring happiness and success (rather than just GDP, revenue, stock-value...).

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 8 - Five Years

Five Years by Corbett Barr
There will be an agreement in whatever variety of actions, so they be each honest and natural in their hour. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
What would you say to the person you were five years ago? What will you say to the person you’ll be in five years?
(Author: Corbett Barr)


Five Years by Andrew Cairns
This is all getting a bit new-agey and hypothetical; I could write better prompts than this. The so called 'inspiring thought leaders' are having trouble moving away from clichés; this question is a bit like the classic interview question - what do you see yourself doing in 5 or 10 years time?


Still, to attempt to answer the questions such as they are... 


What would you say to the person you were five years ago? I would say continue on your path of questioning and being curious; give up bad habits when you're ready (immediately or gradually); don't get too worked up over small disappointments and injustices since in the long-term they will seem insignificant, but stand up for your rights nevertheless (in as dignified and diplomatic manner as possible); maintain valuable friendships.


What will you say to the person you’ll be in five years? You're getting old, mate !! :) Either well done on your progress on various projects, or get the finger out - you should be doing better !! (Depending on how things have gone).


Monday, June 6, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 7 - Dare to be bold

Dare to be bold by Matt Cheuvront

Our arts, our occupations, our marriages, our religion, we have not chosen, but society has chosen for us. We are parlour soldiers. We shun the rugged battle of fate, where strength is born. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Next to Resistance, rational thought is the artist or entrepreneurs worst enemy. Bad things happen when we employ rational thought, because rational thought comes from the ego. Instead, we want to work from the Self, that is, from instinct and intuition, from the unconscious.
A child has no trouble believing the unbelievable, nor does the genius or the madman. Its only you and I, with our big brains and our tiny hearts, who doubt and overthink and hesitate.” - Steven Pressfield, Do the Work
The idea of “being realistic” holds all of us back. From starting a business or quitting a job to dating someone who may not be our type or moving to a new place – getting “real” often means putting your dreams on hold.
Today, let’s take a step away from rational thought and dare to be bold. What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to accomplish but have been afraid to pursue? Write it down. Also write down the obstacles in your way of reaching your goal. Finally, write down a tangible plan to overcome each obstacle.
The only thing left is to, you know, actually go make it happen. What are you waiting for?
(Author: Matt Cheuvront)


Dare to be bold by Andrew Cairns
One thing I've always wanted to accomplish is the PADI diving certificate - to be able to go scuba diving, explore interesting underwater sites. Probably would go for the Open Water diver certificate - alowing you to dive to 60 feet / 18 meters (40 feet / 12 meters for 10-12 year olds) whenever you're accompanied by a fellow of the same or higher certification level (the other diver must be 18 or older for Junior Open Water divers). This would give a lot of freedom (just hire equipment and a boat with another qualified person and go wherever you want).


Obstacles are mainly just finding the time, and taking the initiative to book the training. Would like to go somewhere where you actually enjoy the training and can see stuff. I've only done scuba diving once (but it was excellent - on the great barrier reef near Cairns, Australia). Have also done a bit of snorkelling in Australia and France.


Tangible plan : just book it (and persuade my wife to come along); the timing : end of this summer ?


Anyone else up for it ?

Sunday, June 5, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 6 - Come Alive

Come Alive by Jonathan Mead


Life wastes itself while we are preparing to live. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
If you had one week left to live, would you still be doing what you’re doing now? In what areas of your life are you preparing to live? Take them off your To Do list and add them to a To Stop list. Resolve to only do what makes you come alive.
Bonus: How can your goals improve the present and not keep you in a perpetual “always something better” spiral?
(Author: Jonathan Mead)

Come Alive by Andrew Cairns
1 week left to live ? It's a bit longer than 15 minutes - see previous post (http://my-self-reliance.blogspot.com/2011/05/trust30-online-initiative-30-day.html). Would mean spending (wasting ?) less time on frivolous things like watching TV, surfing the net, and more time doing things of real value : spending time with family and friends, spending time in nature, prayer / meditation, playing and listening to good music... 
To do lists or to stop lists are very hard to keep (a bit like New Year's resolutions). Concentrating on goals that improve the present or immediate future may be useful / easier to do, although it's still a question of motivation, kicking habits / time-wasting activities. 

Saturday, June 4, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 5 - Travel

Travel by Chris Guillebeau

If we live truly, we shall see truly. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Not everyone wants to travel the world, but most people can identify at least one place in the world they’d like to visit before they die. Where is that place for you, and what will you do to make sure you get there?
(Author: Chris Guillebeau)

Travel by Andrew Cairns
I would like to travel to Mecca on the Hajj (Muslim pilgrimage) - see previous post. To get there, will need to save up some money for the trip and prepare (spiritually and logistically). 


I would like also like to visit Asia (the only continent I haven't visited yet, unless you count a stop-over at Singapore airport). India (Taj Mahal), Japan, Singapore / Malaysia, Maldives, Mongolia. Again money and preparation required :). Maybe take a sabbatical or mini-retirement. 

Friday, June 3, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 4 - How can I do work I’m passionate about?

Post-it Question by Jenny Blake

That which each can do best, none but his Maker can teach him. Where is the master who could have taught Shakespeare? Where is the master who could have instructed Franklin, or Washington, or Bacon, or Newton? . . . Shakespeare will never be made by the study of Shakespeare. Do that which is assigned you, and you cannot hope too much or dare too much. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Identify one of your biggest challenges at the moment (ie I don’t feel passionate about my work) and turn it into a question (ie How can I do work I’m passionate about?) Write it on a post-it and put it up on your bathroom mirror or the back of your front door. After 48-hours, journal what answers came up for you and be sure to evaluate them.
Bonus: tweet or blog a photo of your post-it.
(Author: Jenny Blake)


How can I do work I’m passionate about?

See my answer in 48 hours... 


  • If a job's worth doing, it's worth doing well.
  • Hence (a bit cynically), if a job's not worth doing, it's not worth doing well (or at all !) ;)
  • Be prepared to move elsewhere (Scotland ? Medium to long term plan ?)
  • Sustainable Development (see my blog : http://my-sustainable-development.blogspot.com/)
  • Bottom-up: trying to adapt my experience to jobs on offer
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  • Top-down: here's my passionate ideal job - where / how can I do it ?
I am passionate about working in Sustainable Development. Since my Master's degree in this subject I've had mixed fortunes in finding related interesting work. I plan to market my skills and eventually move to Scotland (or elsewhere) where there are real opportunities and other motivated people to work with.

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 3 - One Strong Belief

One Strong Belief by Buster Benson

It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude. - Ralph Waldo Emerson, Self-Reliance
The world is powered by passionate people, powerful ideas, and fearless action. What’s one strong belief you possess that isn’t shared by your closest friends or family? What inspires this belief, and what have you done to actively live it?
(Author: Buster Benson)

My Strong Belief: Al Shahada
The Shahadah is the Muslim declaration of belief in the oneness of God (tawhid) and acceptance of Muhammad as God's prophet.

أشهد أن لا إله إلا الله و أشهد أن محمد رسول الله
ʾašhadu ʾan lā ʾilāha ʾilla (A)llāh, wa ʾašhadu ʾanna Muḥammada(n) rasūlu (A)llāh
"I testify that there is no god but God, and I testify that Mohammad is God's Messenger"
 I have converted (or reverted) to Islam around 4 years ago after discussing with Muslim friends and being inspired by reading the Qur'an and other books explaining Islam.
Actively living Islam involves attempting to  live by the 5 pillars of Islam :
(1) the shahadah (creed)
(2) 5 daily prayers (salat), 
(3) almsgiving (zakah), 
(4) fasting during Ramadan 
(5) the pilgrimage to Mecca (hajj) at least once in a lifetime

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

#Trust30 online initiative - a 30-day writing challenge - Part 2 - Today's sentence

Your genuine action will explain itself, and will explain your other genuine actions. Your conformity explains nothing. The force of character is cumulative. – Ralph Waldo Emerson, Self-Reliance
If ‘the voyage of the best ship is a zigzag line of a hundred tracks,’ then it is more genuine to be present today than to recount yesterdays. How would you describe today using only one sentence? Tell today’s sentence to one other person. Repeat each day.
(Author: Liz Danzico)
My sentence 
The day is a sequence of efforts and rewards, or endeavours with expectations which may or not be met : wash to stay clean, eat to relieve hunger and obtain energy, travel to work (a place to obtain monetary rewards for services rendered), do certain tasks - create 'value', commit to future tasks, sell abilities to potential clients, exercise to stay fit and relax, sleep to rest and recharge... does any action - apart from unconditional love (if such a thing exists) - deviate from this rule ?